We all know at least one person who is a huge jerk. They are always rude and condescending, and they never seem to care about how their words or actions affect other people. But do you ever stop to ask yourself if you might be a huge jerk too? It’s not a fun question to answer, but it’s one that we all need to ask ourselves from time to time.
What are the signs that you might be a huge jerk, and, if you are, how can you overcome your jerky tendencies?
Here are a few signs that you might be a huge jerk:
-You always have to be right
-You never apologize, even when you’re clearly in the wrong
-You cut people off when they’re speaking
-You talk over people
-You’re always trying to one-up people
-You enjoy making yourself feel superior to others
-You’re always putting other people down
Also, think about the way people tend to react to you. For example, do people seem to avoid you or get tense when you’re around? Do they seem to be trying to please you all the time or walking on eggshells around you? If so, that’s another sign that you might be a huge jerk.
No one wants to admit that they’re a huge jerk, but it’s important to be honest about yourself. If you can relate to any of the above signs, then it’s likely that you’re a huge jerk. But don’t worry, there’s still hope for you! By recognizing your jerky tendencies, you can start to work on overcoming them.
Here are a few things you can do:
-Practice active listening
-Try to see things from other people’s perspectives
-Make an effort to be more humble
-Work on being more patient
You might also reach out to friends, and especially former friends, and just ask them how you come across to other people. It can be a difficult thing to hear, but it’s important to get an honest opinion from someone who knows you well.
If you’re willing to put in the work, you can definitely overcome your jerkiness. Just remember that it’s not going to happen overnight, and it’s going to take active, conscious change. Your inclination will be to defend yourself; as a matter of habit, you will probably continue to exhibit some of the jerkier behaviors listed above. But if you’re truly committed to change, then eventually you will get there.
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